We all look for the secret to be able to build focus that enlivens our dream. Often, it ends up complicated, but there is a proven secret to keep focused and allow our dreams to materialize in life.
I know how you feel, having goals, working on them, and then discovering that something gets in the way of the bigger and better things.
It seems unfair, but life has its wily ways and leads us away from our most important goals and dreams.
We don’t know how it happened, but it did, and it doesn’t feel so good.
Then we get back to the drawing board and begin planning again. The goals are the same as before, but you feel more fired up this time, and you just know that you’ll achieve your goals of financial success, and changing things for the better in your life.
Then it happens all over again, and you lose track of your dreams.
You are no different to thousands of other people who want to achieve something great in life. You have a special goal — to not to accept the mediocre in life. To strive for that wonderful dream that makes it all worthwhile.
Setting great goals is a powerful motivator. Fulfilling these goals is either going to be a chore for you, or it will be an adventurous experience that makes your life fulfilling and richer.
The goals that you have are good, they are realistic, very possible and they are especially for you. They are like your secrets, and everybody’s got a good secret to keep and protect.
We keep our goals secret because they cause envy in others. And that incites criticism from others — nobody needs to experience that, or risk having their goals distorted and bashed about by the unkind words of a nay-sayer.
This is something that I learned a long time ago — don’t share your big goals with other people.
Popular advice suggests that you should tell everybody about our goals. That is bad advice.
Talking about our dreams and goals seems like boasting about the future, mouthing off about what’s going to change. How your life is better than the person you speak to. That’s how egoists, and arrogant people speak.
It doesn’t fit with the calm, methodical work involved with goal achievement. The fire is burning deep down inside of us, and it’s up to us to keep it stoked.
But it’s hard to keep a secret. We all want to share good things, and hope that our sharing helps others too.
Writing your goals down is a way of sharing your deepest dreams with yourself, and that’s the person who is most important to share with — yourself.
If you don’t revisit your goals each day then they will fade away into the depths of your mind, only later to be washed up on shore in future. That’s when they will look like a ship wreck.
Keeping a journal has been talked about and written about often. And with good reason — it’s something special.
A journal, when we take it seriously, keeps us in check. It does something amazing to our mind that everyday thoughts don’t do.
As I’ve mentioned in other articles, writing thoughts onto a blank surface, filling the space with ideas, causes the mind to become mega focused, very quickly.
When you use a journal to simply write down you feelings about your life, your aspirations and your efforts to reach your goals, you are talking to yourself about reaching for the stars. That’s your prerogative with a journal — it’s a secret place to keep everything that is of value to you.
If you haven’t yet started keeping a journal, then it’s probably high time to do so. Surely, your dreams are valuable enough to keep safe.
When you start to write in a journal it can be a little awkward at first. It feels odd to write everything about yourself, but that soon passes as you see the value of what you are doing.
These days, I can’t imagine a day without taking the time to write something about myself, my goals and where I am in life. It took a while to get over the feeling of being selfish — spending twenty minutes of a day thinking about me.
Writing your thoughts about you and your needs is the only way to bolster your goals.
The goals that you have, will only begin to materialize when you have them clearly presented in your mind.
The journal keeps them at the forefront of your daily thoughts. Just by spending time being accurate about recording your past actions, whether thoughts were oriented towards your goals, or how much effort you put into something, will give you solid feedback on why you are making progress or where you have to put more effort in.
You can begin to win the war on pointless thinking by starting a journal immediately.
Just writing about how you feel about your goals helps to visualise them more clearly. If you can see your goal, you will know that it’s quite possible to achieve it.
When we write about ourselves we are learning how to get over ourselves, how to accept everything about who we really are. We see how strong we are, surprise ourselves with thoughts and opinions about life.
As we fill the pages of our journal it begins to show a pattern, a rhythm of life.
A single black dot of music on white paper doesn’t mean much to us, but when we join all of the dots together, we see the flow of it and it then makes sense and becomes music.
Like music, our thoughts have rhythms and beats, bars and staves, there might even be a “key” in which we live our lives.
These are the mechanics of our own musical experience, how much we enjoy life and learn to master the instrument we choose.
With our journal we want to write the music so that we can finally listen to it and enjoy it. Goals and aspirations are the movements and parts of the music, the doing is the musicality of our lives.
Human beings often look to the future, to try and control it. That’s normal, it creates a sense of security.
We plan our days as if we are writing the future of a whole city, often forgetting that these are our plans and they might clash with the people we meet that day. That’s how things go wrong.
Walk into a coffee shop and you meet Murphy, and he starts laying down his laws to screw up your day.
If you have a strong sense of self, Murphy’s opinion doesn’t mean much to you.
If you allow every man & woman-jack you meet to influence you with their smart-assed opinions of life, what’s best to do, what you should do, and so on, then you’ll end up sounding like the school orchestra at their first tuning session. A dissonant mess of notes.
Taking the time to sit and write about yourself is a noble thing to do. It ensures that you discover who you really are.
You learn to be honest with yourself, and this can only reveal your true opinions about the things we all do in life.
It gives you solid ground to walk on, to feel sure about. You already know what you feel about a thing when you’ve done your writing and investigating in your journal.
To discover who you are is about revealing your beliefs and values. These are the things that create the attitudes and needs that you have in life, the real needs that come from within, not without.
Extrinsic ideas that influence you are other people’s opinions about what’s good and bad in life. Knowing yourself by writing a journal each day and keeping track of your own rhythm of thinking supports your values and shows you the truth about what your goals should be.
Your goals and values, build belief. Put together as a daily routine, an adventure in life where you act in certain ways that lead to positive results, will reinforce who you are, and can only make you stronger as a human being.
The nobility of searching and discovering yourself is that you serve humanity by finding the best of you.
Getting deep down under the layers of excuses and false-ideas, or ideas that you have used to avoid hard work, or allowed confusion and fear to rule your days can be eliminated once and for all by taking the time to simply write in a journal each and every day.
To face those fears is to light them up in your mind, and that’s something sneaky fear doesn’t like — to be discovered for what it is. Fear is just a thought. Keeping focused on your goals is like a fire.
It’s when we destroy fear in our minds that we find our actions become more congruent and harmonious all of the time.
So, how does keeping a journal help materialise our dreams?
It seems simple, but all the best kept secrets turn out to be simple, obvious and yet genius thoughts — like a zen koan to meditate on.
The real secret to keeping focused is that there is no other way. All great people who have achieved anything can tell us that they kept a journal and wrote their deepest thoughts into it, each day.
Even the ones who claim not to have a journal will reveal a note taking method that is organised and guarded by them as a valuable part of their daily work.
The simple process of focusing each day on your goals, writing about them, investigating them by noting how and what you feel, right now, causes a straightening out of the mind to happen.
The notes begin to look like music, and after a while you feel an enormous desire to practise playing those notes to make the music of life reverberate throughout your entire day.
The “key” in which you play becomes obvious to you. When you know the key to your own music, you can experiment and improvise in life without it sounding badly “off”.
Your goals then become clear and obvious to you. And when you are focused on your dream, you won’t have time to listen to the rattle and clatter of fearful thoughts that hold other people back.
Its the Proven Secret to keeping focused your dreams
I’m not a person who likes to tell others how to live, I’m better off helping people to see for themselves, so I hope that with these lines and notes you found a little riff of pleasure to take and make your own, to experiment with and blow your horn, or jam your axe like one of life’s great musicians.