How to cause a 100% Positive Change with one fell Swoop
I like reading articles on Medium. There’s such a mixture of writing styles, and a good mix of people who write on here. That’s a good recipe for a reflection of opinions and facts about everything, so I’d say, “a great place, for a good read.”.
This morning I wrote an article on photography, then I moved on to the front page to view its offerings. I clicked on a favorite of mine, August Birch, who wrote an article on How we need to Stop Building monuments to our Creative failures , it immediately grabbed my reader mind, so I read it through. When I’d finished I had something worthwhile to think about.
I like August Birch. I don’t know the man from Adam, but just through his writing I feel as if I’ve got an idea of what type of person he is. He comes across as being honest, and his writing seems to be the result of hard work at balancing his message in a clear and interesting way. I think he probably works hard at studying his writing to achieve his aims.
To write like a real person who wants to tell you something without confusing the hell out of you — he achieves this, and it leads me to want to read more of what he writes.
I liked the article he wrote this morning because it rang a bell about all the things I think about and face each day; I think also many people face problems about how to deal with the past. How do we put it into perspective?
Techniques for recreating the past are effective for many people, based on the fairly sound psychology that what the mind visualizes and imagines, is simply a fact for the mind — it will be put into the memory as real a event, if done effectively. It’s not magic, as August Birch says himself.
Psychology is all we have to work with, and it hasn’t really achieved the status of pure science which it hoped for. Each decade the facts of psychology change with new ideas, new technology and a new way of looking at the human mind.
If you read through the history of psychology from shortly before the turn of the 20th century till now, a condensed version would be possible, it can be highly entertaining and down- right scary about what some the whack-jobs in white coats came up with — clearly, there were a lot of the white coats with posh voices who exerted an influence on the practice without being questioned.
Just take a look at the story of the man who came up with the idea of a lobotomy. Walter Freeman left a trail of fear and death in his wake for years. His belief was that excessive emotions were the root of mental illness, what his definition of mental illness was, leaves a few important questions.
Right now, the shift in psychology is to go in from the physical side of the brain and see what’s happening, Neuro-psychology.
In the past, it was the belief that psychologists would discover what this mind thing is all about, and they would finally put it in a bottle and harness its power. Good luck with that, it’s a moving object.
There’s a fine balance to be found when we recreate ideas about ourselves, our personalities. The way we perceive ourselves is dictated to us through our mindset, which in turn helps us to relate to things in our environment and therefore make decisions based on “best needs” to feed and bolster the personalty.
The emotions are the basis of our motivators, feelings just appear as a reaction to stimuli coming in from outside. That’s my take on it, after self-observation.
The emotions are often built on memories and experiences that we have had. The past bothers us through these channels, and it helps us with those emotions that drive us to do good things like work at our jobs, find meaning in life and all the rest of the good stuff.
I would guess that ‘character’ and emotions are the same thing.
But it’s when we are constantly faced with the problems that weigh us down in life, that it seems impossible to have any power over ourselves.
Those past business decisions turn into cement shoes that sink opportunities of the future. When we can’t stop obsessing over the failures of the past, everything our future selves touch will get the same result. August Birch
My experience of life is that today I could spend all day, of every day, obsessing over the past. A childhood that doesn’t make good table conversation — and things I’d never talk about flippantly.
It was long battle, but I finally got to that moment of being worn down by my own whirling thoughts about horrible and unfair things of the past. I was forced to admit that I’m wasting precious time and energy of my own life with these “cement shoes”. They didn’t fit me well anymore, I knew that.
I’d been working on myself daily for a longtime, and the deeper emotions that were in waiting, we’re saying, “Yeah, come on, let’s do it, “ — “let’s just leave the past behind and make room for this new idea about living today, and building a new set of powerful experiences,”.
It has worked. I know that the only reason that I no longer spend time thinking about those unpleasant experiences of the past, is because I did make a solid decision to think about the now.
I also put more energy into taking my plans seriously, following through with actions, which builds new thought patterns, and new habitual actions — leaving no time to hang out in the past.
The new patterns of thought and action, become emotionally charged patterns of thought — and that will feel like the natural way to act.
Just by knowing what you want, and knowing that it’s an actionable plan, you will be in the position to put on a new ‘set of clothes’ and act accordingly — your emotions will develop by constant reinforcement through actions.
This type of dramatic change can happen, especially when a person understands that the choice is to continue living in the past. This would mean spending each day bound up in conflicting emotions and debilitating feelings that can cripple any chance of free living, or to start focusing on the now and the plan and lifestyle that reinforces new, and more useful, emotional patterns of thought.
Their is a choice, and choice means making a decision.
Many people avoid making a solid decision because it means taking on responsibility and that means new routes of action — change.
Past sorrows are perfect for eliciting pity and sympathy from others. We can get these reactions from others quickly if we bring up the past, and make everybody present know we are wounded.
Friends want to help, but the best they can do is show empathy, pity, and stroke your wounds for a while.
Afterwards, it’s back to feeling good about getting past that moment. The same moment, same film, will pop up at some point in the coming days or months.
The human mind loves to repeat things. It gives a feeling of security — habit. Some of those repetitions are bad habits.
Change seems to be hard, we instinctively know it means cutting loose from the past — breaking very destructive habits, and replacing them with new ones.
It’s when we do change successfully that we understand that it isn’t really as hard as we thought. Nothing gets broken, in fact something good gets mended. We start to work with a feeling of being released from something that was binding us to a weight that we dragged around with us.
To go along with August Birch, and my own ideas, the ability to change is in us. Nothing is beyond our own capabilities, if we can imagine the idea of changing and enjoying life more, if we can see that a decision must be made with 100% certainty, then we can also make use of these ideas and use actions to reinforce the decision by materializing it with actions.
It’s then that emotions will change, become more solid, and our present will be more important than pondering why we want to change.
A decision made, is something done and dusted.