How Mentally Strong People Conquer Doubt
It’s a wonderful feeling to have a great idea. It’s even better once we put it into action. The problem is, our mind loves to put the boot in, and churn up fear and doubts.
Doubt cripples us, fear can kill any chance of a good idea growing legs and walking — if we allow it.
Doubts are the little babies that fear breeds.
It does this purposefully, it wants us to stop and think about things a little longer.
It wants to stop us from being hasty about our lovely plans that seem so warm and fuzzy as they swim around in the giddy pool of our thoughts.
Fear is a real thing. As real as the mind itself. It has a good purpose in life, it protects us when danger is lurking.
Self-confidence is a real thing, as real as the mind. It gives us courage and activates our creativity.
According to psychologists, fear is in the old part of our brain. It’s that deep seated learning that goes back hundreds of thousands of years to the darkened caves where we would take turns keeping watch in the dark.
The night comes and so do the predators. So some sleep, and some stand guard at the gate. You have to protect your family. Big scary creatures lurk in the dark, and you can’t see them. The only way to get the advantage is to not sleep, and stand ready, all night long.
That must have been tiring, but evolution has a way of understanding that we needed to develop the ability to stay highly alert, and our active nervous system should always be ready to spring into action.
So, it developed into a powerful element of our minds. Just like breathing automatically, we experience fear automatically. We don’t consciously trigger fear. We just feel it when something isn’t quite right. It’s a good thing if you are living in a dangerous situation. It’s a disadvantage when you have developed your fear factor to kick in everytime you have an idea. The sort of ideas that you know could take your life up a notch, give you an edge. Fear wants to protect you from them, stop you from making a big mistake. It doesn’t like change — that’s too dodgy, fear can’t handle change.
If the feeling of fear doesn’t make you stop working on your new ideas, or you look like you’re getting serious about a major change in life, then fear will bring an army of doubts out in force. They will march on, present logical arms and spread out into the undergrowth of your mind. The enemy, known as Doubt, is a trained army of little bastards who will turn the fields of your mind into a churned up and burned out patch of barren land.
When doubt gets a hold on the lines of thought, sends in its special forces to disrupt and destroy your ideas, you won’t know if you should stand your ground and fight, or raise a white flag. Just remember this always, doubts are the children of Fear. Fear is a monster who eats up everything that lives in its path.
You must overcome fear and doubt with the power of knowledge. Firstly, any good thinker, planner, and doer, knows that self-knowledge is the most powerful weapon. It acts as mortar fire when those little doubters attempt to breach the barricades that you’ve set up.
Self-knowledge is a tank regiment lined up in the darkness at the edge of your mind, always waiting for the commander to give the order. If Doubt starts a movement towards the lines of your solid thoughts, self-knowledge will have a salvo of reaffirming ideas to fire off at doubt, a battle won — but the war isn’t over. It doesn’t end. But self-confidence is stronger.
This constant battle between doubt and ideas creates friction that you can use to develop self knowledge. You learn about your enemy, you try out new tactics, develop strategies to overwhelm the enemy at first sight — self-knowledge is effective in putting the heebie-jeebies into Doubt. If used wisely, it will destroy doubts everytime they arise from their little trenches.
There is no learning without questions. That old evolutionary characteristic of fear and doubt gives us an opportunity to do battle and find out if we are serious about our plans. To face up to the fretting and worry, the trepidation of change, and in spite of doubt’s forceful words, to step out and make changes in life bolsters self-confidence enormously.
The only way to discover your self-confidence is to allow yourself to become vulnerable in the face of doubts and fears. You ask questions and learn new things. Each answer leads you into new ground, and you are vulnerable again.
Self confidence is discovered and developed. It isn’t given. It’s already there, deep inside of you.
All you have to do is start listening to the right voices in your head. Those voices that are your true voice can often be whispers that prompt you, while doubt shouts and groans at you, sometimes, confidence has no words.
There are many strengths and powers within the mind that are not expressed through formulated words, they are simply emotions that run deeply through the rivers of your mind. Listen to their rhythms, and you will know that you are listening to your own music.
The mind is a big landscape, a place where you can till the land and farm your ideas. Farmers have a time to sow and time to harvest. Use your patience to stave off doubt through learning about how your mind works. Then you will know what you need to develop a life with a good harvest.
The work that you need to do always comes from within — that’s where all your resources are kept. Doubt and fear know about the plans you make, the seeds you sow, and the hopes and dreams you have.
Always overcome attacks of doubt with the skills of a master of your own mind. If you know what you want, and are happy with your decisions, then you have a post to tie your self-confidence to. That’s your point of battle, to fight off fear as soon as you see the glint of its weapons on the horizon — don’t ever wait to listen to the voice of doubt.
Doubt is a trickster, fear encourages you to listen to doubts' argument.
If you have a plan, an idea, and feel confident about it, then do it and find out if you are right. Make yourself vulnerable to experience and learn. It won’t harm you to do things, to try for bigger plans.
It will harm you if you allow fear to rule your mind.
Experience can only be won through taking action. You’ll discover that doubt doesn’t follow you into the fray of life’s battles, it sits at home waiting for you to return, to nag at you when you are tired and exhausted after you’ve achieved something good.
The more often you take action and finish things, the less noise doubt can make — it loses its power. That’s when you begin to hear the flowing rivers of your own life. It is a sweet sound.